Getting into the Real You

Are you in your own way?

Whether you’re developing spiritually, psychically or pursuing some other kind of self improvement you will of course encounter yourself…and your success will hinge on whether or not you can let the totality act through you and get out of your own way. If you have a strong ego the answer is…probably not until you learn to get over yourself.

The story of who you are is usually not who you want to be.

Most of us walk around with a story. This is the story of who we are. Then there is another story…the story of who we want to be. Most of have trouble believing the story of who we want to be because of the discomfort caused by who we think we are presently and an unwillingness or inability to face our own thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. This is the highest challenge that the ego presents. So how do you get around this?

Get over yourself!

Get over yourself…what does that mean? It means that the real story lies in creating a new you in this moment, right now. Nothing exists outside of this moment. So whether you use this moment to dwell on the story of who you’ve been in the past or who you want to be in the future you are still missing the mark and you are still in your own way. When you get over yourself you let both of those stories go…and create right now in this moment a new way of relating to yourself.

Be kind to yourself.

The way you relate to yourself will be reflected in your relationship with others and ulitmatly with life. One way to break down long term beleifs about your own worth and many fears and insecurities is by being super kind to yourself. Allow for your needs, work and play in ways that acknowledge and accept them. Give yourself and body care. Make time for you. By doing this you open yourself to the good available in the world. It will change the way you feel about yourself and everyone else. When we allow loving acceptance of ourselves for just being us instead of having to pass some worthiness test we’ve invented to keep us feeling bad and in essence in the grip of the ego, the ego lessens in strength and we become more receptive to our true relationship with life.

Getting in the way of your own spiritual/psychic development.

Growing spiritually and or psychically definitely requires you to develop a new relationship with yourself if you want to go very far. To receive, you have to become a vessel, which means you are relatively empty of content. In this sense content is the story of your self. In order to receive psychic or spiritual information you have to be able to temporary get out of your own way…becoming one with the totality of all that is.

But what happens when you come back? This is the perfect opportunity for the story to come in and operate through the information you received. Can you separate what you received from your own thoughts and judgments about it? Can you learn to deliver the message without getting in your own way?

Of course you can, all it takes is a deep awareness of your own internal landscape. This allows you to be true to the information, to see when your ego is in operation and to know it for what it is…a story, a fear, an insecurity, a sense of feeling small, etc. Which really only reflects a belief in separation and a need to re-connect. At this point you re-connect before making your delivery…another method is to allow for your own opinions but to make the distinction between inner commentary and the actuality of what you received. This means your awareness has returned and you are seeing your own internal processes clearly.

The paradox of thinking you are the center of the universe verses being the center of the universe.

When we are stuck in our personality or our ego we think we are the center of the universe but we don’t know it and we can’t feel it, so we need constant reassurance of it through the world. This is direct evidence that we may think it but we don’t believe it, in fact we are afraid we are wrong. In this state we attempt to prove our way out of fear through substance…any kind of substance will do; success, achievements, money, sex, food, drugs, things…we become collectors, driven to accumulate…and stuff ourselves full of whatever we can to escape the uncomfortable feeling of underlying fear…but here’s the paradox.

You can’t feel it because you believe you are not it! You believe you are small and insignificant because you believe you are separate from God. If you can get underneath the thinking, the beliefs and the story of who you think you are…you will discover that you really are the center of the universe because you are an inseparable part of it. Once you know that, feel it and comprehend this truth…you understand that you have access to all that was ever created, is currently in existence and all that ever will be created. From that place there is no lack…there is nothing but fulfillment…no reassurance required!

This is getting over yourself, over who you think you are and getting into the real you

Comments

By Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker on July 21st, 2007 at 7:30 am

Paula, great article. I had to peel away all of layers of who I thought I was to find who I really was. I had to release a lot of fairy tale ideas of who I was to find me. I told myself that I was an honest person. What I found was that because of the family secret sof alcoholism and incest, nothing about me was honest. I had to lie about who I was to feel safe and to keep others from knowing the wounded child that I really was. Today, there are no family secrets. I openly write and talk about them and who I was because of them.

By Paula Kawal on July 21st, 2007 at 7:17 pm

Hi Patricia,

Being vulnerable gives us access to great strength…it takes a lot of courage to dig deep into those layers of judgment and belief only to discover that all things can work for good. As a friend told me not too long ago when I was struggling with being real:

Courage is not the absence of fear and you are not alone

Much love,

PK