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Love and Beliefs

A Rose By Any Other Name

I’ve written this article for those who would like to bring a little more love in their lives. If you are at a place where you want to find someone of like mind and heart to spend a little bit of time with, this article is for you.

Love and the Law of Attraction

Before I met my husband I had a list of criteria I wanted in a romantic partner. I wasn’t even interested in dating someone that didn’t meet these requirements. When dating a new person I always had what I was looking for in mind, and if I didn’t see enough matches early on I moved on to someone else. Although I never realized it, I was using the law of attraction to find what I wanted.

I had dated enough to have a list of areas that I was really clear on…and I was a complete and total match for getting it partially because I would accept nothing less and partially because my beliefs were congruent with what I wanted.

The Love List

To begin getting clear on what you want in a romantic partner, compile a list of attributes that are a “must have” for you, in that special someone. Write down everything that comes to mind and then go into detail as to why specifically it matters, what your person having that will get for you and what makes it a must have. When you’ve finished your list, the next step is to find out if you are a vibrational match for what you want.

The Vibration Revelation

Many of us think we know how we feel about love, what we want and how to get it, however I am guessing that most of know less than we think. A love relationship is an old subject even for the very young among us as it is one of the very first relationships that we experience.

As a child growing up we form ideas about love, what it means, what it will get for us and how to get it by watching the interaction of those around us…the conclusions we come to become deeply embedded within us, operating below the level of our conscious thought.

Are you curious about the beliefs you have lurking under the surface within your deeper mind? Are you wondering what is driving your patterns, attracting you to the same type of man/woman and influencing the kinds of relationships you bring into your life?

If so, answering the following questions will reveal how you really think about love and provide a window into how congruent your thoughts are in this most important area of life.

Comparing the outcomes of these questions with the attributes you’re looking for in a partner with give you a good idea if you are a vibrational match for what it is that you want.

So what if you’re not a match for what you want? I’ll cover that in part two of Manifesting the Love of Your Life.

Uncovering How You Think About Love

  • What were the positive and negative events that shaped your relationships with men/women?

  • What was your parents relationship with each other (your observations)?

  • Finish the sentence. I think my dads/moms beliefs about love were?

  • The effects of their beliefs on you was?

  • Finish the sentence. I am/am not in the exact love situation I’d like to be in because?

  • What you need to do to have the relationship you want is?

  • What stops you from having the relationship you want?

  • Fill in the Blank

    People in love are _________

    Love makes people_________

    I’d have love if_____________

    My dad thought love was__________

    My mom always thought love would__________

    In my family love caused_______________

    Love equals_______________

    If I had love I’d_____________

    If I could have love it would___________

    Love is not___________

    I’m afraid if I had love I would____________

    Love is________________

    Love causes______________

    In order to be loved I need to______________

    When I’m in love I usually_______________

    If I could love freely I’d_____________

    People think love__________________

    When someone is single it tells me that_________________

    People are single because________________

    People become loved by_______________

    Single people are____________________

    Married people are__________________

    When I was a kid I knew which kid’s parents were married and which were divorced. I was the kid of __________ parents and this had the following affects on my thoughts about relationships_________________.

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    12 comments for “Manifesting the Love of Your Life”

    1

    Paula, I printed out two copies of this article. One to give to my sister who picked the same kind of abusive men to “love” her. She is currently between men. The other is for a friend of mine who is recently divorced and doesn’t know what she wants right now. If they will read it, I think this list will help both of us realize what they want from a love relationship.

    February 15th, 2008 at 9:45 am
    2

    Hi Patricia!

    Indeed it will tell them a lot. Often times we make unconscious agreements with our family members and those agreements can come out as some very big limiting beliefs that operate across our lives. As a coach and from personal experience, I can attest that some of the most life altering forms of these beliefs are held around love (especially romantic) and money as these are both areas that involve creation…and many of us have yet to embrace our inner creator which is reflective of our deepest connections to Source :)
    Much love,

    PK

    February 16th, 2008 at 8:11 am
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    Lost in the clouds with Jupiter transcendent

    Lost in the clouds with Mars ascendant.

    Love Luck and the music of the Spheres.

    Azure in the arms of Cerulean

    Cast adrift in the Indigo isles

    May Angel love and Moon glow light your path.

    February 16th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
    4

    Paula, I appreciate your writing about love. I can think of a more important topic especially in the world we live in.

    I am blessed with the wonderful love of my wife Bobbi, our dog Pax and family and friends.

    I write about love, compassion, consciousness, purpose, potential and peace.

    Joseph Bernard
    http://www.ExploreLifeBlog.co,
    http://www.Peace-Together.com

    February 17th, 2008 at 9:08 pm
    5

    Hi Joseph!

    I’m glad you found my blog! It’s wonderful to meet all those who are a voice for positive change in the world ;)
    Poetryman,

    Thanks for the beautiful words!

    Much love to you both,

    PK

    February 20th, 2008 at 8:32 am
    6

    Paula, those questions and the fill-in-the-blank section are awesome! Now, why didn’t someone hand me THAT when I was twenty? :-)
    Interestingly enough, I made a “love list” too when I went out there dating again - and when I met my husband, he fit the list on all counts. It was really a little surreal! It’s amazing what we can attract when we are clear about what we want.

    Blessings,
    Andrea

    February 23rd, 2008 at 1:58 pm
    7

    Hi Andrea!

    Yet another thing we have in common…manifesting husbands! I wonder what else we could manifest if we put our heads together…hmmmm ;)
    I really wish I had met you before we left Arizona. It would have been very fun to connect in person. Perhaps, we’ll get the chance though as my husband has started working for his Arizona group again and will be traveling there from time to time. I sense a gathering coming on!

    It truly is amazing what we can attract when we are clear…in fact, when we are clear, we can’t help but attract it!

    Much love,

    PK

    February 27th, 2008 at 9:23 am
    8

    Wow, this post is definitely kick ass, Paula! Thanks for that. I’m going to spend some time on it right now!

    March 9th, 2008 at 9:26 am
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    Hi Albert!

    You’re very welcome! Go for it…and be sure to let me know what you’ve discovered/uncovered ;)
    Much love,

    PK

    March 9th, 2008 at 7:48 pm
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